That long-forgotten memory flared when I reached out to a writing colleague for help with a writing blank. My friend tossed me a couple of ideas, which we bounced back and forth, and I came away with a list of subjects and approaches. Thanking her, I declared, ‘Sometimes, I just need a little bump’, which spun off into the subject for this blog.
Writing is a solitary exercise and sometimes it’s lonely. It’s like being the only boat in the pool. The fun of bumper boats comes from the bumping and the chasing, not the boating. Without anyone to bounce writing ideas off, I tend to putter around avoiding the harsh edges—despite knowing my direction and purpose need challenging.
A month or so back, I was working on a personal essay for an upcoming anthology. It was a subject close to my heart and one which I never imagined I’d have trouble writing on—but I did. I got entirely stuck and after weeks of writing in circles was close to abandoning the project. Instead, I cast myself into the advice pool and got the boat-tilting thump I needed to spin me off in a new direction. The essay I ended up submitting had no resemblance to the original version. It has been short-listed for the anthology. Finalists will be announced later this month.
All it took was a nudge.
But, not every bump I’ve had has been helpful, some have been bone-shattering. Several years ago, someone I’d trusted to critique a short story for me took it a step further. Instead of highlighting what didn’t work for them or asking me questions, they did a total rewrite—one that changed the theme and nature of the story. They’d dragged me from my pool into their bumper car rink and slammed into me from behind. As a new writer, it shook my confidence and I scurried back to my writing silo to lick my wounds. It taught me that I need to trust the people I share my work with, because not everyone shares my values, or knows me well enough to understand what I need.
At times, I’ve tried to engage non-writing friends and family in discussions about ideas for stories—it never works. They’re happy to read what I write but they have no interest or capacity to engage in the process. I’m privileged to have a tight circle of writer friends who I trust to give me a prod where and when I need it.
It’s not that I don’t have my own ideas and approaches, I do, but sometimes we all find ourselves adrift and becalmed, or circling away from the point. When that happens, getting a little bump in the right direction, being drenched by a wave of new ideas, or being shunted hard enough to spin off to a different approach, can make all the difference between not finishing a project and having it published.
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